Someone once said that in order to love fully, you have to risk having your heart broken. Too many people in infatuations, romantic relationships and marriages make the mistake of withholding love. Most of our relationships have boundaries. We use them for protection. We've been hurt before, and we're afraid of becoming too intimate with someone lest we get hurt again. As a result, there is mistrust, we play mind games, withhold who we truly are, and refuse to cede our power and pride. Trust takes a while to develop. The problem is when someone is never able to be completely open and honest. In order to have an intimate relationship with anyone, we must first love and trust ourselves. If we are untrustworthy, we probably will not be able to trust anyone else. The problem is often not the other person. The problem is when we make unsound choices based on our insecurities and fears. It's good for us to be able to see our own areas that need improving. However, it is distorted to believe ourselves to be unlovable. No matter who we are or what we've done, what we choose to do with our lives is a matter of free will. We can, at any time, change our thinking and immediately begin changing our experience. That is, if we prefer to grow rather than wallow in self pity. Until we can truly accept and love ourselves exactly as we are, close, loving relationships will be hard to come by. Instead, we'll find ourselves dogged by unhealthy, secretive and selfish relationships. If we can resign ourselves to be in that perfect place of love, where we are giving, loving, and trustworthy for others, people will come into our experience. Some will be healthy for us and others will be draining. To attract those who will resonate with us, we can simply speak softly our highest truth and stand quietly in our integrity. Those who cannot bear the light will slip back into the shadows. It is often easier to love those we haven't met than those we face daily! Potential partners are always more attractive and interesting in our imagination and in their distance. We always want what we do not have. When we do have it and the illusion falls away, we find that we are unable to deal with the reality, and begin to hanker after another false image. If we would be loved, we must be loving. If we can look beyond the humanness of another - that is, the weakness and fallibility of being human - then we can see the beauty within. It's that beauty that we fall in love with. That grows ever more lovely even as age creases the skin, loosens the muscles and greys the hair. Love is an infinite commodity. You can't give it away without creating more. You attract into your life that which you are. To find the right person, be the right person Loving someone isnt easy as we thought, as it takes time for feelings to develop. whether to opposite sex or same sex it makes no difference. its not hasty decision. but i think it really did happen that i admit i like a girl. i mean i am not afraid to let ppl know who i like, but i'm afraid to love cos i might hurt someone. i'm not afraid to be hurt again cos i'm used to it. its life that at some point, falling in love is inevitable. i'm not joking about liking this person at all. she may not love me. she may love me as a sister i dun mind. i do love her alot as a sister. i love everyone. janice. my retarded watersun brother christine. sisi. everyone. but this person makes a difference in my life, she makes it in a way that i feel so comfortable and gradually i fell in love with her. but well. haha lets not tok about this. makes ppl wanna puke. makes them think wads wrong with me. zzz wadever. i'm tired. dawn gives me a last chance if i feel giddy again. she'll rooll me to the clinic. lol

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The Spongebob Has Spoken ...on 12:13 AM